Recommended Reading

The following books and articles are recommended for those who wish to deepen their understanding of the concepts covered in this course. Items marked as Highly Recommended are considered essential reading for leadership practitioners.

Books

Highly Recommended

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most

Stone, D., Patton, B., & Heen, S. (2010) · Penguin Books

A foundational text from the Harvard Negotiation Project. The authors introduce the Three Conversations framework and provide a rigorous, practical guide to navigating conversations about what matters most.

Highly Recommended

Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity

Scott, K. (2019) · St. Martin's Press

Kim Scott argues that the most effective leaders combine personal care with direct challenge. The book offers a practical framework for giving feedback that is both honest and humane.

Highly Recommended

Conversations Worth Having: Using Appreciative Inquiry to Fuel Productive and Meaningful Engagement

Stavros, J., & Torres, C. (2018) · Berrett-Koehler Publishers

A practical guide to applying Appreciative Inquiry principles in everyday conversations. The authors demonstrate how generative questions and positive framing can transform the quality of dialogue in organisations.

Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life

David, S. (2016) · Avery

Susan David, a Harvard psychologist, presents a research-based model for developing emotional flexibility. The book is particularly relevant for leaders who struggle with avoidance or over-reaction in high-stakes conversations.

Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High

Patterson, K., Grenny, J., McMillan, R., & Switzler, A. (2021) · McGraw-Hill

One of the most widely used frameworks for high-stakes communication. The authors provide a structured approach to maintaining dialogue when emotions run high and opinions differ significantly.

The Fearless Organization: Creating Psychological Safety in the Workplace for Learning, Innovation, and Growth

Edmondson, A. (2018) · Wiley

Amy Edmondson's research on psychological safety provides the organisational context within which difficult conversations either succeed or fail. Leaders who create safe environments find that candid conversations become less exceptional and more routine.

Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well

Stone, D., & Heen, S. (2014) · Viking

A companion volume to Difficult Conversations, this book shifts the focus to the recipient of feedback. Understanding how people receive and resist feedback is essential knowledge for any leader who must deliver it.

Dare to Lead: Brave Work, Tough Conversations, Whole Hearts

Brown, B. (2018) · Random House

Brené Brown draws on her research on vulnerability and courage to argue that the most effective leaders are those willing to engage in uncomfortable conversations rather than avoid them.

Articles

Words and Phrases to Avoid in a Difficult Conversation

Detert, J. (2021) · Harvard Business Review

A concise, research-backed guide to the specific language patterns that derail difficult conversations, with practical alternatives for each.

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Manage a Difficult Conversation with Emotional Intelligence

David, S. (2014) · Harvard Business Review

Susan David outlines how leaders can use emotional agility to stay present, curious, and constructive during conversations that trigger strong emotional responses.

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Leadership Matters: Reducing Conflict Through Aikido

Buchanan, H. (2017) · Credit Union Management

An accessible exploration of how the martial art of Aikido offers a powerful metaphor for conflict resolution: moving with rather than against the energy of a difficult conversation.

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Leaders Must Be Willing to Have Difficult Conversations

Houston, M. (2017) · Lead You First

A practitioner perspective on why leaders who avoid difficult conversations ultimately undermine their own authority and the wellbeing of their teams.

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